Apple at least can absolutely do this, that's what the purpose of reporting a device stolen is.

OK but that's a very different story, one is stolen and at the request of the owner, the other is for some ethereal vague hard to pin down rule that was broken with no way to resolve it. My use of my property that I own should not be contingent on some behavioral rule on some website that could change at any time. Don't give money to companies that can remotely brick your property without your explicit request.

Apple also has phone numbers you can call with a human at the other end who can help resolve stuff like this.