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> Chatting on dating apps was surprisingly fulfilling: People were really kind and it was a fun way to talk to strangers, especially when that wasn’t possible IRL.

Pretty sure using dating apps would have the opposite effect for most depressed men: would make them more depressed.



I have to agree - dating apps are depressing as hell for most men to use. The author appears to be female, which explains this view.


Lonely Software Engineers can chat with recruiters on LinkedIn instead. They have such sweet things to whisper in your ear.


Genuine "laugh out loud" on this one. Thanks for that :)


The male/female asymmetry on dating is staggering.


Well, the generation who grew up with chats knows exactly why that is. Pick a female handle, and feel showered by the beauty of inspiring conversations with men. :))


But even then, as a guy it's hard to imagine the difference in size. A woman will get 15 private message per minute while most guy will have 15 a day.


Well... You also have to realize that most of those messages are going to be complete garbage that they have to wade through. I'm not convinced they have it any easier.


I didn't say easier, just asymetry. It's just super weird and hard to imagine when you never saw it firsthand. I'm not trying to assign blame.


For someone only interested in social chatting, if it's true that regular dating apps are unpleasant for men, there's always the option of gay dating apps. You do have to be tolerant of some amount of un-requested nudity, but otherwise it is a good option for just finding chat partners.


If you're just looking for chatting partners, language exchange apps are going to be much better due to the asymmetric desire to learn English and the fact that just by talking, you're providing value to the other person.


It's also poor advice because there's already too many people on dating apps looking for pen pals instead of dates. There's other apps to just chat with people without leading them on.




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