> short guys looking for girlfriends, unattractive/aging women looking for husbands
These sound like buckets you created to fulfill your own subjective stereotypes.
> Doing things by myself is boring and depressing, and getting into a group of "normal" friends, of both genders, to hang out and laugh with, seems like an impossible goal.
This is a harsh thing to say, but maybe its you. You disparage people who are looking for the same thing in the previous paragraph.
> I feel that finding a non-coding job would be ultimately the best way to find new social groups
As someone who has worked many non-coding jobs, I can assure you that it is not.
These sound like buckets you created to fulfill your own subjective stereotypes.
> Doing things by myself is boring and depressing, and getting into a group of "normal" friends, of both genders, to hang out and laugh with, seems like an impossible goal.
This is a harsh thing to say, but maybe its you. You disparage people who are looking for the same thing in the previous paragraph.
> I feel that finding a non-coding job would be ultimately the best way to find new social groups
As someone who has worked many non-coding jobs, I can assure you that it is not.