This person... must be very young. Every chef I've met is a borderline or full-on alcoholic. Bosses aren't supposed to tell you what to do, they're supposed to deal with you when you aren't doing it. Those aren't companies being fucked up, those are just... ways work is done.
But the OP also shouldn't be glorifying being fucked up or working too hard. The drunken chef thing, that needs to change. Bosses not telling you what to do? That's the ideal.
Do what you are comfortable getting paid for, that enables you to have a family life, friends, and interests outside of what you get paid for. We were never supposed to work this much anyway (see: pre-industrial labor, hunter-gatherers, etc). If you are constantly stressed at work, find another job.
But the OP also shouldn't be glorifying being fucked up or working too hard. The drunken chef thing, that needs to change. Bosses not telling you what to do? That's the ideal.
Do what you are comfortable getting paid for, that enables you to have a family life, friends, and interests outside of what you get paid for. We were never supposed to work this much anyway (see: pre-industrial labor, hunter-gatherers, etc). If you are constantly stressed at work, find another job.