This reads a bit like someone trying to force a romantic relationship. Yes, we're no kids anymore, but this doesn't mean we're entitlted to anything. Relationships only really work, or are really fruitful, if not forced. Same applies to love. At least this is my experience. If you have to write "Don't be too hard to yourself" in an article which says "You're not uncool" in the title, something is definitely off. If you have to assert that "people already like you", you likely have personality traits that make you unfun to be around, which explains why you need to read this article. If I had to summarize, I'd say: "Self-help for neurotic people".