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		lloydjones 32 days ago \| parent \| context \| favorite \| on: 'Askers' vs. 'Guessers' (2010) I think guessers agonise over HOW to say "No" in contexts like this, and what it says about them as people. "Can my family and I stay for two weeks?". Then: "No." (looks cold and heartless; do I want to project cold and heartless? Will they hate me?). "I'm so sorry but I'm not able to. The house is a mess and it's really small" (performative, hand-wringing reluctance; we both know I'm lying). "I just don't like to share my environment" (most truthful; might look petty to those who don't understand the need for privacy to that degree).

j1elo 32 days ago | [–]

All this rings true, which brings me to this question: are Guessers just a bunch of Overthinkers?

lloydjones 31 days ago | | [–]

They are, yes

lloydjones 32 days ago | [–]

Having said that, I have become a lot better at being direct these past few years, so I'd likely just say "I'm not able to, sorry. I can recommend some good hotels though".

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